Bdsm, Social Life And sex

Bdsm, Social Life And sex

Bdsm And Social Life

Another issue that should not be forgotten is the fact that bdsm is only experienced in the private sphere. because if sex is a private life, bdsm is more private life. If we leave this part of the work aside, A person’s role in bdsm may give an impression of their personality in their social life, but their social status does not give much impression of their possible bdsm role, a huge holding manager, a teacher or a cleaner can be submissive or dominant. this is usually not reflected in people’s social life. A woman meowing like a cat at home with a leash around her neck, for example, can be an HR manager in a company and vice versa. It should never be associated with it. but just because a person is passive in his normal life, his role in bdsm does not necessarily coincide with submissive tendencies.

Bdsm And Sex

Let’s start with one of the biggest misconceptions basically; bdsm is often sexually based, but often not sex-related. yes this is the case. In order to correct this misunderstanding due to the fact that we, as a society, have completely built the concept of sexuality on sex, we first need to review our perspective on sexuality. namely; Sex is not just about penetration. The man who impresses a woman with his muscles, the woman who sends nudes on whatsapp, the sentence said during a flirtation, going out to a luxurious meal or cuddling and sleeping are also parts of sexuality and can give a person erotic pleasure. This is how we can think of bdsm applications. It is mostly the sum of the things that provide mental pleasure to the person and the effort to reach the saturation point. We can understand the situation better with a few simple examples. (examples are 100% real)

– imagine a man who has been completely devotedly enslaved to a woman for 1.5 years. So much so that this man even delivers his salary to that woman. He sleeps at the time he wants and wakes up at the time he wants. With one of his words, he jumps into the sea in the freezing weather, takes time off from work, goes on vacation after him and serves only him the whole time. He cleans his house, puts his shoes on, prepares his dinner. On top of all this, she is humiliated, she is beaten if she wants to, and even quits her current job if that woman wants it. moreover, all this continues for 1.5 years and there is no sex, namely penetration, including oral sex, even once in this relationship. moreover, the woman sometimes forbids the man to have an orgasm, that is, even masturbation. even going further, chastity belt (penis clamp) or something.

– A sadistic man makes a partner with a masochistic woman for a long time, binds her, makes her suffer, makes her wait for hours naked on the ice-cold balcony, whips her, leaves her breathless, but does not have sex.

– a man can pay a lot of money for the worn socks of a woman he sees on twitter. He wants to be scammed by another woman, he wants to be threatened, he wants to be mistreated. He can lick the toilet or bark and send a video at his command.

The most important rule in these examples is that all of the people mentioned are satisfied with their lives and that what happens is done with their own consent.

In the light of these examples, we understand that the real focus of pleasure is not penetration. If you are asking “so what is it” keep reading and we will surely find an answer.

Finally, let’s move on to definitions and terminologies by adding the following; bdsm doesn’t have to be about sex, and it doesn’t have to be. That’s why we don’t look for clear answers to these questions because there are extremely personal and variable answers here. You can ask the same question to five thousand people who are interested in bdsm and get five thousand different answers, and all of these answers may be correct.

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